The Very Nature of Relationships

Every day, we are faced with an immeasurable number of choices. They range from the innocuous, “What should I eat for breakfast?” to the more significant ones that revolve around our hopes and fears. Amidst our daily grind, we engage in conversation and connect with others to form relationships. Sometimes, we’re lucky enough to find someone with whom we feel comfortable enough to share those aforementioned hopes and fears. We’re able to form special bonds that allow us to share our hearts with another.

Some of these relationships help us understand the unique experience of falling in love. For the most part, discovering and being able to love is incredible. The problem arises when we begin to question love’s toll on our lives. We wonder if we will have the time and effort to make a relationship successful or we spend too much time worrying about the consequences of a relationship not working out. Worst of all, we simply wonder if it will be worthwhile – if it will be worth the potential heartache or if it is worth the energy to care for another before ourselves.

The thing is, relationships, by their very nature, are distractions. They’re often time-consuming, mentally taxing, and emotionally trying. However, relationships are distractions we choose to have. 

Yes, they can be emotionally, mentally, and even physically demanding, and to create and preserve relationships is not always the most ideal decision. Yet we choose to include such relationships in our lives because they provide opportunities to connect and value someone else’s happiness over our own. We make the executive choice in our lives to make those attachments because with them, we can enjoy the rare pleasure of discovering the world together, growing together, and experiencing life together.

The timing is never right and on occasion there are seemingly insurmountable odds against making that connection. But at the end of the day, it’s a matter of how much you value that relationship and how much you’re willing to sacrifice in order to ensure its success.

Spring Intentions

Today was the first day in a long time that made me feel as though spring is truly on its way. I’ve never really been spring’s biggest fan (blame it on the impending and inevitable three weeks of seasonal allergies), but given the last few months of bitter cold and icy winter, I felt a genuine sense of relief and joy for today’s balmy weather.

Naturally, the transition into spring engenders images of rebirth, rejuvenation, and an overall lightness of being. In an effort to embrace that sense of freshness and novelty, I am focusing on a handful of spring intentions; not so much resolutions, but more everyday decisions I hope to be mindful of.

Connect without reservations
It’s easy to assume that everyone is so busy and lost in their own lifestyles that they can’t possible have time to sit down for tea or grab lunch. It’s even easier to believe that everyone around you is leading a more vibrant, interesting life than yours, which happens to be filled with far too many marathon viewings on Netflix. When everyone starts to feel that way, it makes it hard to reach out and make connections because you already anticipate rejection. Instead, I want to reacquaint myself with old friends, make new ones, and incorporate more meaningful connections often.

Last week, I spent a week in Jamaica with some of my closest friends. Considering we were in a different country and that all of our friends were with each other, most of us didn’t have access to texting, checking emails, and using social media. Going a full week without using any web medium was difficult at first, but after a few days, I realized how much more time I had when I wasn’t spending hours on the internet or checking my phone. Obviously being back at school means I need to use my phone and laptop, but I hope to unplug more frequently and reap all its benefits.

Create with my hands
I do my best to get my share of physical activity on a regular basis, but there is something very unique and satisfying about engaging your hands in an activity. Kneading cookie dough, gardening, or even just tossing around a baseball. These activities target your hands and work the intricate muscles within them. Try any one of them; it definitely beats typing away at a keyboard.